The Ultimate Groom’s Guide: From the Suit to Groomsmen Etiquette
The brides get it all, don’t they? There’s an abundance of guides and tips for brides but not many for grooms so here it is! We have not forgotten you! Your wedding day is one of the most significant moments in your life, and as the groom, you want to look your absolute best, possibly even try to outdo your partner! From selecting the perfect suit to navigating groomsmen's etiquette, there are many decisions to make. In this groom's guide, we'll walk you through the essential steps to ensure you're well-prepared for your big day!
HONEY, WHERE’S MY SUPER SUIT
What’s Your Style?
Are we going for a classic black tuxedo, a stylish three-piece suit or something even a little more casual like a linen suit for a beach wedding? Understanding what suits you best and has your confidence soaring is essential before you start on your suit journey. A clear understanding of your style preferences will also save time by narrowing down your options.
Season & Venue
The time of the year and the location of the wedding holds great influence over your ultimate supersuit! For example, a summer wedding would see grooms opting for lightweight fabrics such as linen or seersucker. Whereas heavier wool suits are best suited for winter ceremonies and spring and autumn are typically easier to navigate seeing as how the weather isn’t too hot or too cold in these two seasons. Secondly, take into account the formality of the venue; a casual linen suit would best suit a beach wedding while a formal suit would best suit a ballroom wedding.
Fit is King
As mentioned in one of our previous blogs, ‘Choosing the Perfect Wedding Dress for You', no matter how beautiful your gown or suit of choice is, it won’t matter if it doesn’t fit perfectly. Invest in a well-tailored suit that complements your body type and be sure to leave enough time for alterations to achieve a perfect fit (and a good budget as this has the potential to take up a good chunk of money as mentioned in our latest blog ‘Unexpected Wedding Expenses’). Take a look into Instichu that tailor makes suits, allowing you to choose the fabric and design the overall look whilst ensuring the perfect fit.
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Coordinate with your partner
Coordinate with your partner in crime and ensure both attires complement one another. Discuss the colour palette and style to ensure a cohesive and harmonious look which will no doubt have you guys shining in photos. Don’t forget about your groomsmen as well!
GROOMSMEN ETIQUETTE
Now that you’re looking picture-perfect, we have to ensure your groomsmen are ready to take on the day as well. Constantly beside you, your groomsmen are equally important and act as a constant support system that will encourage and help you throughout the day! (a big help especially if you think you’re going to shed a few tears!)
Selection Process
Now this is an important decision, just like how your bride will be with you for life, these people are most likely friends who have been and will continue to be with you for as long as you live. Choose individuals who you trust and have a close intimate friendship with. It is also perfectly fine to have an uneven number of groomsmen so take your pick!
Communicate Your Expectations
As fun as it may seem, there are responsibilities and jobs tasked to the groomsmen. It’s essential to ensure that the roles and responsibilities are properly discussed, these jobs may include attending pre-wedding events, helping with tasks and of course being punctual on the big day! Most importantly, they need to have a pack of tissues in their back pocket!
Help Them with Attire Selection
You may be the star of the show but everyone else needs to also look Hollywood ready! Guide your groomsmen in selecting their attire by coordinating the colour and style with your own suit. Provide clear instructions on where to rent or purchase their outfits and ensure they’re well-informed of whether or not you’ll be covering the expenses!
Show Appreciation
It’s not essential to pay for all their expenses but these men or even women are going above and beyond to support you throughout the biggest day of your life so a little show of appreciation is always nice. Consider giving them personalised gifts as tokens of appreciation and maybe include them in your speech to acknowledge their efforts.
WRITING YOUR VOWS
Reflect on your relationship
Look back to the very start of your journey as a couple. Recall the special moments, challenges you’ve overcome together and the reasons you feel in love. Let these memories be an inspiration and watch as the words just flow out onto paper full of emotion (we hope!).
Personalisation
Just as your super suit is tailored perfectly for you, ensure your vows are tailored for your partner. Include inside jokes, shared experiences and references that only your partner will understand. This will make your vows more intimate and special. However, don’t worry too much about perfection. Your vows need not be a flawless piece of literature and we’re sure your partner will love you more with all the imperfections that you may make writing and saying your vows.
Honest & Sincere
Your vows no doubt should come from the heart so be open and honest about your feelings for your partner. Share your dreams and hopes for the future together. Authenticity will make your vows more powerful, moving and intimate.
SELF CARE
Now we know this may not be your cup of tea but ensure you’re taking care of yourself both mentally and physically in the lead-up to the wedding. Get enough sleep, more if you can, eat well and then exercise to have those muscles popping out!
Wedding planning should be fun and done together so consider booking a spa day or facial appointment that can be enjoyed together with your partner. Don’t let the stress of the logistics get into your head and ensure those pimples stay away!
Planning your wedding as the groom involves more than just showing up on the day of the ceremony. Choosing the right suit and navigating groomsman etiquette are essential aspects of the process. Remember that communication, coordination, and appreciation are key elements in ensuring a smooth and memorable wedding day. With the right suit and a supportive group of groomsmen, you'll be well-prepared to embark on this exciting journey towards marital bliss. Happy Wedding!
